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House rules

Five rules for members and four for cafes. You agree to the member rules when you join, with one tick. Each comes with the reason for it and what happens if it's broken.

Placeholder pencil drawing of Qamar Coffee House, an example Yemeni coffee house

For members

  1. Marriage-minded only.

    Why Everyone at the table is there for the same reason.

    If it's broken Cafes ban people who aren't serious. Reports count towards a suspension.

  2. Don't approach anyone in the cafe without a mutual wave.

    Why Two people agree to meet by both waving. Until then, nobody has agreed to talk.

    If it's broken Cafe staff can ban you on the spot. Members can report you for it.

  3. No contact details on your profile.

    Why Numbers and handles are swapped in person, if at all, once you've met at the table.

    If it's broken Profile text with a phone number, email, link or @handle is rejected.

  4. Be respectful, in the app and at the table.

    Why The cafe is someone's business, with staff and other customers in the same room.

    If it's broken Inappropriate behaviour can be reported and gets you banned from that cafe.

  5. 18 and over.

    Why shofa.social is for adults thinking about marriage.

    If it's broken Staff check a photo ID at your photoshoot. Anyone who may be under 18 can be reported.

Repeated problems lead to an automatic suspension for anyone banned at 2 or more cafes, or reported by 3 or more different people within 90 days, while the case is reviewed. A permanent ban blocks that phone number from signing up again.

For partner cafes

  1. Take photos only in the cafe, using live capture.

    Why So every photo on shofa.social was taken in a partner cafe and looks like the person.

    If it's broken shofa.social follows it up with the owner and can remove the cafe from the programme (policy to be confirmed before launch).

  2. Check age at every shoot.

    Why So everyone on shofa.social is 18 or over.

    If it's broken shofa.social follows it up with the owner and can remove the cafe from the programme (policy to be confirmed before launch).

  3. Don't share anyone's details outside the app.

    Why So what members share stays inside shofa.social.

    If it's broken shofa.social follows it up with the owner and can remove the cafe from the programme (policy to be confirmed before launch).

  4. Ban fairly and log a reason.

    Why So bans are fair and can be reviewed.

    If it's broken shofa.social follows it up with the owner and can remove the cafe from the programme (policy to be confirmed before launch).

If something isn't right, you can report a concern, with or without an account.